My Partner Is Pressuring Me to Have an Abortion, But I’m Not Sure

Unexpected pregnancy can challenge a couple. You now have to decide what to do next, and you might disagree.

If your partner is pressuring you to have an abortion, know that your pregnancy decision is ultimately up to you. The decision will impact you the most.

Here are tips for what to do when your partner is pressuring you.

1. Give Them Space to Process

Your partner may lean toward abortion because they are shocked or nervous about your pregnancy news. 

He might see abortion as a way to undo the current situation, but there’s no “undo button.” You will both remember your decision for the rest of your lives.

If you think this is causing him to pressure you, give him some space to think about what he’s advising you to do. He might change his mind or begin to think about other possibilities.

2. Research Your Other Options

Research your other options: parenting and adoption. Learn about your available resources and consider how to make either option work. 

Present your findings to your partner. Maybe he’s unaware that parenting is affordable thanks to many local organizations and government programs. Or, maybe he would be on board with adoption because it gives his child a chance at a bright future.

3. Share Your Feelings

A healthy relationship requires honesty, listening, and trust. Share your feelings with your partner. Why are you not sure about an abortion? What choice are you leaning toward?

Sharing your thoughts and emotions will help him understand you better, and he could even soften toward another option.

4. Discuss Your Relationship

Sometimes, women feel pressured by their partners’ wishes due to fear their partner will leave. Avoid giving into fear, and have an honest conversation with your partner.

Is he willing to support you even if you choose another option? Do both of you see yourselves continuing in a committed relationship? How do you both feel about your relationship right now?

It may feel like you’re putting your partner on the spot, but it’s necessary. You don’t want to make a decision solely based on a partner who will soon be out of the picture.

We’re Here to Support You

Relationships are hard, and pregnancy can add another layer of complexity.

We’re here to support you and help you navigate tough conversations with your partner as you learn possible options. Additionally, you can receive no-cost early pregnancy services to provide key pregnancy details and inform you of your next steps.

You are not alone! We can help.

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