Do I Have To Tell My Partner I Want an Abortion?

Facing an unplanned pregnancy is difficult. Part of that difficulty can be engaging with your partner about the pregnancy and their involvement in making the final decision.

If you’ve decided to have an abortion, you may wonder whether you must inform your partner of the decision. 

Legally you are not required to notify a partner about your decision or have their consent before an abortion procedure; however, for the sake of your relationship, it may be in your best interest to discuss your decision before having an abortion.

While these conversations can be difficult, below are some helpful ideas to make the conversation as productive as possible.

Understanding Your Fears

Telling your partner you were pregnant was likely very tough, making a follow-up conversation that much more difficult. Part of this could be because of how they reacted—did they panic and become angry? 

Remember that your safety should be your top priority. If you are worried that talking with your partner about your abortion decision could lead to them becoming physically or verbally abusive, call the domestic violence hotline immediately. If you suspect you are at immediate risk of physical violence, then call 911 right away.

Sharing the News

If you do decide to share the news, there are a couple of steps to take that can make the conversation easier.

Get Comfortable

To help lessen the stress around the conversation, find a comfortable location, like a favorite coffee shop or park. Then present the decision to your partner calmly and explain how you came to your conclusion. 

Remember that they may have questions and need time to process the information.

Have the Facts

Having all the facts about your pregnancy, understanding the available options, and knowing what type of abortion you are considering, can demonstrate to your partner that you've thoroughly deliberated your decision and are taking charge of the situation.

Knowing details like the age and viability of your pregnancy can help you stay calm and focus on the facts if your partner starts to get flustered or worried.

Be a Good Listener

Listen to your partner's thoughts or concerns even if you've already decided. Allow them to verbalize their thoughts; they may surprise you with ideas or insights.

We Can Help

Hope Clinic for Women is here to help you. From offering free pregnancy tests and ultrasound scans to give you the facts you need to answer your questions and providing helpful ways to talk to your partner—we can help empower you to make the best decision for your health and future.

Our services are free and confidential, so contact us today to get the answers you need.